Whenever I sit down to write a blog post I am humbly and gratefully aware that all moms are not just like I am. Therefore, these posts may be a good fit for some moms on some days and may not be relevant at all for others.
I know many of you are not moms, you may be single, empty nesters, grandmothers, some of you may be aunts ~ some even dads and grandpas!
I’ll just keep chugging along with my Snippits, though, in hopes that someone may benefit along the way.
Snippit #3 ~ Dad may do things differently, but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong!
This was a very, very hard lesson for me to learn. After all, I had read all the child rearing books. I listened to Dr. Dobson DAILY. I subscribed to all the latest parenting magazines. I gleaned wisdom from other mothers and grandmothers. I had years and years of babysitting experience. So, therefore, I was pretty much an expert on childrearing when our first one came along. Or so I thought!
So, when my husband didn’t burp or hold him just right… I told him how.
When he didn’t feed him correctly….I showed him the correct way.
When he didn’t use enough enthusiasm in his voice when reading Pat the Bunny….I corrected that, too!
When he played too rough and made him cry….I just couldn’t stand it!
I left him detailed lists on how to care for him when I was out for two hours.
My poor husband!
It didn’t take long for him to feel as if he just didn’t know anything about being a parent. I was treating him like a babysitter, not as a father.
Perhaps it was an article or a radio program, I’m not sure, but I began to feel very convicted over the way I had been basically undermining my husband. I took a huge step back and began to keep my mouth shut more. I began to respect my husband as the wonderful father God made him to be. It was a beautiful thing! I began to realize that we were the perfect combination for rearing our children.
Children need a little roughness…and a little softness.
A little neatness….and a little messiness.
Some rough and tumble…and some quiet time.
That’s why we have mothers and fathers. To balance each other out and to round out our children.
I have learned a very important lesson through the years:
Dads do things differently than Moms….and that’s the way it’s supposed to be!
Zuzu and Papa 
this is one of the sweetest posts ever. So hard for mom to let go a little but so necessary.
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This was something I struggled with when our boys were little. What I have learned is that I'm not perfect and even though Dad doesn't do everything my way, his way is just as good as mine! We are two imperfect people working together to raise our boys the best way we know how. Thank you for this reminder of how important Daddy is!
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Thank you so much for your sweet comments!
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Thanks for this very real assessment of Dad's role. What a blessing to have been given a husband who does the dad thing so well. I am blessed by this as well. God is good, great even!
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Suzanne you are wise beyond your years and these words of wisdom can also be applied to new grandmothers 🙂 Thank you so much!
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So thankful for your post! I have struggled with this myself for sometime but God has revealed to me the importance of a mother and father.Most importantly, it is ok to be different than our spouses. However, the key thing is to come together as husband and wife in the decisions being made in our home, especially with raising our children. God is so good and knows exactly what He is doing even when I don't. Many blessings to you!
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Great post ….we all need those Dad's to be "Dad's" and not let the well-meaning mom's change them!
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